Earlier in the summer I moved to Brooklyn, and now on my walk to and from the train I pass this piece of street art that says curb your ego. I smile every time I see it because it’s cheeky and relevant to the neighborhood, but it’s also a much needed reminder to pause and pay attention.
It’s a reminder that our ego can be our own biggest obstacle. Even though it gives us a sense of self and a feeling of independence, it’s also responsible for making us feel separate and better (or worse) than others.
Our ego creates dividing lines which we liberally apply to the world (“I would never wear those shoes with that skirt”) or use as a tool to box ourselves in (“I’m not good enough to do X, Y, Z”). Our judgements and biases, which we may or may not be aware of, creates a barrier (he/she is X, so we have nothing in common) and prevents from connecting on a deeper level. Regardless of what anyone says – we need love, and thrive on creating connections and community. Which is why it’s necessary to push our egos off to the side sometimes, to get it out of the way so we can approach situations without the unconscious judgements we’ve created for ourselves. Sometimes we just have to get out of our own way.